| Have you ever been told you were being "too shallow" | | | | who is perfect, for that matter? I happen to believe |
| when you expressed to someone what you were | | | | that people who are "perfect", whoever they are, must |
| looking for in a partner? I know I have.If we say we | | | | have a really hard time finding someone to date. After |
| want our future mate to look a certain way, we get | | | | all, who is good enough for someone who is perfect? |
| the "shallow" routine from people we talk to. Numerous | | | | Kind of an ironic twist, isn't it?My opinion is that we tend |
| women I've talked to report that they draw similar | | | | to be attracted to people who look a lot like us, have |
| disdain when they say they want an "intelligent" man. | | | | the same values as we do, and share other similar |
| (Hmmm...so why don't men hear that when they | | | | things—like a sense of humor, for example. My |
| express such a desire for the woman they hope to | | | | girlfriend (and "podcast princess") Emily disagrees. She |
| meet?) Furthermore, we all know what a woman's | | | | thinks people tend to go for someone who is a lot |
| going to hear if she says she hopes for a mate who is | | | | different than they are. You know, the old "we |
| financially successful. My educated guess is it's | | | | complete each other" bit. Well, here it is: it really doesn't |
| probably something similar to what a guy hears when | | | | matter which one of us has it figured out. Neither |
| he talks about what kind of body his future mate | | | | situation involves someone going after a "perfect" |
| should have. So is there anything to this accusation of | | | | person, does it? Whether I want to find someone who |
| "being shallow" as single people in particular so often | | | | is a lot like me or who "completes" me she's not a |
| hear? Should we all "lighten up" on potential dates? | | | | Barbie doll. When we're considering who it is that we |
| After all...what we are hoping and dreaming of is a bit | | | | want to spend the rest of our life with out of the six |
| unreasonable, isn't it?My answer is unequivocally NOT. | | | | billion souls on Planet Earth, I hereby declare that each |
| If refusing to settle for any less than the mate I am | | | | and every one of us has every right to consider very |
| going to be thrilled to be with is "shallow", than I'm a | | | | diligently exactly who that person should be and which |
| "kiddie pool" among men. You'd better believe it. After | | | | traits he or she should have. In fact, I highly recommend |
| all, I plan to spend the rest of my life with this woman, | | | | you do so.And once you do that, make sure you are |
| so why should I "settle" for half-hearted unfulfillment of | | | | the kind of mate who is going to make that person |
| broken dreams?My personal pet peeve is when | | | | equally thrilled to spend a lifetime with you. Deserve |
| someone tells me, "You shouldn't be so ‘picky'. | | | | what you want. |
| After all—you aren't perfect."Well...um...exactly.And | | | | |