| How to Express the Six Dimensions of Gratitude | | | | For example, when you are in a particular situation at |
| | | | | work, at home, with a friend or family member, you |
| So much has been said about gratitude lately that I | | | | might ask yourself the following: |
| almost didn’t write this article. Then, I stopped and | | | | What am I particularly grateful for about this situation? |
| listened to my internal dialogue. Did I really hear an | | | | |
| inner voice saying that my readers might 'get tired' of | | | | 3) Express gratitude to others. |
| the message? As I let that voice go, it was | | | | Identify 10 people (if you have trouble with this, start |
| abundantly clear that the energy of Gratitude clearly | | | | with identifying one or two people) who have had a |
| wants to be expressed. | | | | positive impact on your life. |
| | | | | How could you express your appreciation to these |
| One of the greatest gifts of Gratitude is the receptivity | | | | important people? |
| and openness that it creates in our hearts. Have you | | | | For example, you might write a personal letter thanking |
| ever noticed a greater degree of expansiveness | | | | each person for his or her specific influence on you |
| when you have identified and made intimate contact | | | | and send it by snail mail. Can you imagine the impact |
| with this quality? Gratitude changes us. From an | | | | that would have on them? |
| Enneagram perspective, Gratitude is an expression of | | | | |
| the Essential Nature of Type Seven, the Enthusiast, | | | | 4) Find the gifts in difficult circumstances or |
| and that energy within us. | | | | difficult relationships and experience gratitude for those |
| | | | | gifts. |
| Have you noticed where you are and what you are | | | | For example, see a person perceived as being the |
| doing when you experience Gratitude? I find that it | | | | source of difficulty as a ‘teacher’ of something |
| requires awareness and an internal stillness. Truly, it | | | | that you are learning. Asking yourself, “What is |
| can only be experienced in the present moment. On | | | | this person here to teach me?” is a powerful |
| a very human level, it challenges any temptation | | | | question. Many of my clients have found this to be a |
| toward self-pity, victimization, self-grandiosity or other | | | | potent source of change in their lives. |
| form of narcissism, and uplifts us to our higher nature. | | | | |
| Ultimately, Gratitude is an act of being a conscious | | | | 5) Receive gratitude from others. |
| partner in the play of the Universe. It grows our | | | | Practice receiving gratitude and thanks from others. |
| perspective of what it means to be alive. Intentional | | | | Sometimes, this can feel more difficult than expressing |
| Gratitude is very simply, transformative. | | | | your gratitude. Even if this is so, acknowledge it and |
| There is a “continuum” of gratitude consisting of | | | | experiment with accepting positive regard and |
| 6 dimensions. Each is identified below, along with a | | | | appreciation from others. (I know. For some of you, |
| particular example or practice. | | | | this breaks all your old rules.) |
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| 1) Recognize specific aspects of your life for | | | | 6) Be a person of gratitude. |
| which you are grateful. | | | | When you practice recognizing the gifts of life, |
| Identify some of the specific aspects of life for which | | | | expressing thanks and receiving the gratitude of |
| you are grateful. | | | | others, you may notice that you’ll experience a |
| For example, set aside two-three times/week to | | | | qualitative difference in your life. You start to live |
| reflect on and write about what you are grateful for | | | | from this quality. You become a force for this healing |
| and why you are grateful for that particular | | | | quality. |
| experience. Allow yourself to feel the gratitude, so | | | | |
| that you are not just thinking about it, but also noticing | | | | This continuum of recognizing—to acting upon—to |
| how it affects your heart. | | | | being/living from—naturally will begin to re-orient your |
| | | | | life toward more expansiveness. |
| 2) Identify a ‘present moment’ | | | | |
| awareness for which you are grateful; about yourself, | | | | I would love to hear from you regarding your |
| about others, about your opportunities or about your | | | | experiences with this continuum. |
| life. | | | | |